- Stress and anxiety
- Guilt and shame
- Self esteem support
About Nicola
Nicola Lilley is a BACP and NCPS registered counsellor in the United Kingdom with three years of professional practice. She works with people facing stress, anxiety, relationship problems and issues with self-esteem and motivation. Nicola also lists a wide range of concerns she supports, including grief, trauma and abuse, parenting strain, addiction-related worries, and feelings of guilt and shame.
She uses an integrative approach, blending methods to fit the person in front of her rather than applying a single technique. Sessions focus on talking through what matters now, identifying patterns that keep problems going, and trying small changes that can make daily life feel more manageable. Nicola aims to be respectful and sensitive in her work.
Clients may discuss practical matters such as sleep, eating, anger or career stress alongside deeper topics like attachment, abandonment or forgiveness. Nicola also notes experience with mood disorders such as depression and bipolar, and with neurodiversity-related concerns including ADHD. She names issues that often overlap with guilt and shame, such as isolation, impulsivity and control struggles.
Her background emphasises short, clear conversations that help people clarify goals and next steps. Nicola adapts the pace to each person, whether someone wants coaching-style support or longer therapeutic reflection. She accepts international clients and conducts sessions in English.
To begin, Nicola asks people to use the site matching process to book a first appointment. Session payments use a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time, and fees vary with location.
How integrative methods are used in online sessions
Nicola describes her work as integrative, combining practical talking, reflection on patterns, and goal-focused steps. This kind of approach helps when someone wants to understand why they feel persistent guilt or shame and also try small, concrete changes to day-to-day thinking and behaviour.She also draws on techniques that help with mood and anxiety. These approaches look at links between thoughts, feelings and actions, and can be useful for problems such as sleep disruption, worry, low mood or impulsivity. They often involve setting manageable tasks between sessions and noticing small shifts over time.
Finding the right mix of methods is part of the work. Nicola will collaborate with each person to decide what feels most helpful based on their needs, goals and preferences. That may mean a coaching-style focus for practical goals or longer reflection on attachment or past hurts that feed shame.
If you want online sessions, please check which formats Nicola currently offers before booking, as the biography does not list specific options. Online work can make it easier to fit sessions around life commitments, reduce travel time, and allow shorter check-ins when needed. Registered or accredited professionals such as this counsellor can adapt the session length and style to suit everyday schedules.
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Experience
3+ years
Listed in
United Kingdom
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of problems does she help with?
She works with stress, anxiety, relationship and family concerns, plus issues such as grief, trauma, addictions, and guilt and shame.
How would she approach feelings of shame?
Nicola uses an integrative style that looks at thoughts, patterns and practical steps so people can talk about shame and try different ways of responding to it.
What experience does she have?
She has three years of professional experience working with a broad range of concerns including mood disorders, parenting stress, and relationship difficulties.
What are her credentials and where is she based?
She is registered with BACP and NCPS and practises in the United Kingdom.
Can I work with her if I live outside the UK?
International clients are accepted and sessions are offered in English.
What session formats does she offer?
The original biography does not specify formats; please confirm current session options before booking.
How does payment work?
Sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time and costs vary depending on location.
How do I start working with her?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete the short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, use the crisis numbers.