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Malcolm Bateup

Malcolm Bateup, NCPS

United Kingdom

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NCPS counsellor - Guilt and shame, relationships

  • Attachment-based work
  • CBT techniques
  • Relationship focus

About Malcolm

Malcolm Bateup is an NCPS counsellor with 14 years' experience working in the United Kingdom. He supports people dealing with stress, anxiety, addictions, trauma and abuse, depression, relationship and intimacy-related issues, grief, ADHD and many related concerns. Malcolm's background also includes earlier work in the health field and lived experience of mental health.

He uses an integrative approach that draws on several recognised methods. In sessions he listens to what matters most, then suggests ways forward that fit the person’s situation. He also works with issues such as body image, parenting strain, chronic illness and caregiver stress.

Malcolm offers a practical style that aims to make difficult topics easier to talk about. He mentions video link, face-to-face and walk-and-talk options in his biography, and receives regular clinical supervision. He is also the author of Live Your Life Like You Lived It Before.

Sessions focus on clear steps and reflections rather than jargon. Techniques may include exploring patterns in relationships, noticing thoughts and behaviours, and trying small changes between meetings. He can discuss coaching-style tools as part of the work.

People seeking help with grief, anger, commitment concerns, or complex issues such as co-morbidity and attachment difficulties can explore these topics in session. Malcolm aims to be approachable and to help people begin honest conversations about what feels heavy.

How therapeutic approaches translate to online work

Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early and current relationships shape feelings and behaviour. Online or remote sessions can help identify patterns in relationships and the ways shame or guilt show up in close connections. Client-Centred Therapy focuses on the person's experience, with the therapist reflecting what is said and prioritising the client's own pace. This approach can be helpful for people who need space to name painful emotions and to be heard without pressure. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) looks at the link between thoughts, feelings and actions and uses practical exercises to test unhelpful beliefs. CBT can be useful for addressing guilt-driven thinking and for trying small behavioural changes between meetings. Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist discusses goals, preferences and practical needs, then helps decide which methods to use. That collaborative choice can be revisited as progress is tracked. Confirm the session formats before you book, as options were noted in his biography but specifics may change. Many people find online sessions easier to fit around work, reduce travel time, or allow for shorter check-ins when schedules are tight. If quieter surroundings, less bandwidth or not being on camera would help, mention these preferences when arranging appointments so the therapist can suggest the best way to meet them.

Areas of expertise

Also works with

Relationship issuesGriefIntimacy-related issuesEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementSelf esteemCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCoping with life changesCoachingCompassion fatigueADHD

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAging and geriatric issuesAntisocial personalityAttachment issuesAutism and Asperger SyndromeAvoidant personalityBDSM, kink, and alternative sex cultureBlended family issuesBody imageCancerCaregiver issues and stressChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCo-morbidityCodependencyCommitment issuesCommunication problemsControl issuesDependent personalityDisruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)DissociationDivorce and separationDomestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesFertility issuesForgivenessGender dysphoriaGuilt and shameHoardingImpulsivityInfidelityIntellectual disabilityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisMoney and financial issuesMood disordersMulticultural concernsNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPanic disorder and panic attacksParanoiaPersonality disordersPhobiasPolyamory / non-monogamous relationshipsPost-traumatic stressPrejudice and discriminationProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harmSelf-loveSex addictionSexual assault and abuseSexual dysfunctionSexualitySmoking / vaping cessationSocial anxiety and phobiaSomatizationTraumatic brain injuryWomen's issuesWorkplace issues

Therapeutic approaches

Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Gottman MethodJungian TherapyMindfulness TherapyNarrative TherapyPsychodynamic TherapySolution-Focused TherapyTrauma-Focused Therapy

Experience

14+ years

Listed in

United Kingdom

Languages

English

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of concerns does he work with?

He supports people with stress, anxiety, addictions, trauma and abuse, depression, relationship and intimacy issues, grief, ADHD and related concerns.

How does he approach shame and guilt?

He uses an integrative, practical approach that looks at relationship patterns, thoughts and behaviours to help people talk through feelings of guilt and shame.

How much clinical experience does he have?

He has 14 years of experience as a counsellor and psychotherapist and earlier work in the health field dating back to 1996.

What credential does he hold and where is he based?

He is listed with NCPS and practises in the United Kingdom.

Can sessions be held in languages other than English?

Sessions are offered in English.

What session formats are available?

His biography notes face-to-face, video link and walk-and-talk sessions; confirm current session options before booking.

How are fees and payment handled?

Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.

How do I begin the process?

Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.

Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, use the crisis numbers.

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