- Attachment-based work
- Person-centred approach
- Guilt and shame focus
About Tessa
Tessa Adri-Soejoko is a counsellor registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and has six years of experience. She works with stress, anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, relationship rupture, grief and intimacy-related concerns. Guilt and shame are listed among her focus areas. Sessions have addressed parenting strain, compassion fatigue and coping with life changes.
Her approach draws on person-centred counselling. That means conversations focus on the person in front of her rather than a set technique. Attachment theory also informs her work, so discussions often look at patterns that formed in early relationships and how they affect emotions now.
In practice she uses straightforward talk, reflection and gentle questioning to identify recurring patterns. Clients can expect to map out what feels most important and then try different ways of addressing it in short steps. She names emotional regulation and relational patterns as common targets for this work.
Tessa notes that sessions can be used to aim for specific goals or simply to reflect on deeper difficulties. She has experience helping people with abandonment worries, codependency, commitment issues and feelings of emptiness alongside more common concerns like anxiety and panic attacks.
The focus is on clear, steady conversations about what has happened and what keeps problems going. People who come with guilt or shame often look at where those feelings started and how they show up now, and the work tends to balance practical coping with deeper relational themes.
How attachment and person-centred work translate to remote sessions
Attachment-Based Therapy looks at patterns from early relationships and how they shape emotional reactions now. In practice this means talking about repeated interactions - for example abandonment worries or codependency - and noticing how they influence feelings such as guilt and shame. Client-Centred Therapy focuses on the person's experience in the moment and uses open listening and reflection to help people make sense of their own thoughts and feelings.Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will discuss options with the client and agree what feels most useful given the person's needs, goals and preferences. That decision is collaborative and can change as therapy progresses.
Session formats are not listed in the biography, so please confirm current options before booking. Online sessions can make it easier to fit therapy into a busy week, reduce travel time and allow shorter check-ins when needed. They also allow people to attend from different locations within the UK, which can help sustain continuity of care alongside everyday commitments.
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Experience
6+ years
Listed in
United Kingdom
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of issues does she help with?
She works with stress, anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, relationship rupture, grief and intimacy-related concerns. Guilt and shame are included among her additional focus areas.
How would she approach feelings of guilt or shame?
She draws on attachment ideas and a person-centred style to look at where those feelings may have started and how they show up now. The process mixes reflective conversation with practical steps to change unhelpful patterns.
What is her background and experience?
She has six years of professional experience working with a range of emotional and relational issues, including trauma, caregiving stress and panic attacks.
What credential does she hold and where is she based?
She is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and practises in the United Kingdom.
Which languages are sessions offered in?
Sessions are offered in English.
Can people outside the UK work with her?
She does not accept international clients at this time.
How are sessions paid for and what do they cost?
Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin if I want to work with her?
Use the See online therapy options button, complete the short matching questionnaire and then schedule a first session.
Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, use the crisis numbers.