- Addictions
- Relationship help
- Guilt and shame
About Kiumars
Kiumars Vafai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in California with four years of clinical experience. He works with adults facing addictions, depression, relationship difficulties, low self-esteem, and big life changes. He also helps people who struggle with guilt and shame, loneliness, communication problems, forgiveness, life purpose, and self-love.
Kiumars uses evidence-based therapeutic techniques to help people talk through what is happening now. Sessions focus on concrete steps people can try between meetings. He pays attention to how past choices or family and faith backgrounds can leave someone carrying blame or regret, and he works with clients to name those feelings plainly.
In sessions he emphasizes stronger communication and practical skills for coping with triggers. He helps people practice ways to set boundaries, speak clearly, and rebuild trust in themselves. When relationship patterns come up, he looks at how repetitive behaviors keep people stuck and what small changes might shift those patterns.
Kiumars supports people who want to improve self-esteem and move toward self-love. He works on reducing isolation by helping people reconnect to values and meaningful activities. He frames guilt and shame as feelings to understand and respond to, not as fixed identity statements.
People who choose to work with him typically complete a short questionnaire first and then schedule a session. The therapist discusses goals and offers a plan built around the client's needs, with practical tools and ongoing review.
How evidence-based techniques are used in online work
Evidence-based therapeutic techniques are used to help people change patterns that keep them stuck. Cognitive work involves noticing unhelpful thoughts and testing them against real situations; this can help when guilt or shame comes from harsh self-judgments. Behavioral approaches focus on small, practical experiments such as trying a new communication step or scheduling an activity that strengthens self-worth.Finding the right approach is part of the therapeutic process. The therapist will collaborate with the client to decide which methods fit their goals and preferences. That may mean adjusting techniques as progress is reviewed and new challenges appear.
Practical benefits of online work include fitting therapy into a busy life and shortening commutes. Many people find video or audio sessions make it easier to keep regular appointments and to use shorter check-ins when needed. Confirm current session options before booking to know what formats are available and how they might fit into your day.
Areas of expertise
Primary focus
Additional focus areas
Experience
4+ years
Listed in
California
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of problems does he address?
He works with addictions, depression, relationship issues, low self-esteem and coping with life changes. Additional focus areas include communication problems, forgiveness, guilt and shame, loneliness, life purpose and self-love.
How does he approach guilt and shame in sessions?
He uses evidence-based techniques to help name and respond to guilt and shame. The work emphasizes practical steps and communication skills rather than moral judgment.
How much experience does he have?
He has four years of clinical experience as a practicing LMFT in California.
What are his credentials and where is he based?
He is a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (CA LMFT) practicing in California.
Which languages are supported in sessions?
Sessions are offered in English.
Can international clients work with him?
He does not accept international clients at this time.
How are sessions paid for and what does it cost?
Cost varies with location; sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
What do I need to do to start working with him?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, use the crisis numbers.