- CBT techniques
- Gottman tools
- English and Spanish
About Xenia
Xenia Blanco is a California LMFT with 19 years of experience. She works with adults who are managing stress, anxiety, relationship strain, family conflict, trauma and abuse, and depression. She also addresses caregiver stress, communication problems, divorce and separation, family of origin issues, guilt and shame, loneliness, life purpose, post-traumatic stress, social anxiety, women's concerns, and young adult issues.
She meets people where they are and uses clear, practical conversation to sort what matters most. Sessions focus on identifying unhelpful thoughts and patterns, and on small changes that can reduce daily pressure. She draws on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy methods and relationship tools from the Gottman Method when these fit a person's goals.
In a session Xenia listens, asks straightforward questions, and offers exercises to try between meetings. People commonly work on communication skills, setting boundaries, and processing past events that still affect daily life. She explains the rationale for techniques and checks in about how they feel to the person using them.
Her approach balances emotional processing with concrete skills. She encourages short experiments and regular review so progress is visible. Sessions can include Spanish or English, depending on the client's preference.
For someone carrying guilt or shame, she helps name the thoughts and separates what is changeable from what must be accepted. The work aims to lessen the everyday weight of those feelings and to improve relationships and daily functioning.
How her approaches translate to online work
She commonly uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which focuses on identifying and changing unhelpful thoughts and behaviors. CBT is often used for anxiety, depression, and for reducing guilt-driven thinking by testing the facts behind those thoughts.She also applies tools from the Gottman Method to help people improve communication and manage relationship conflicts. Those methods include structured conversations and exercises that clarify needs and break repetitive arguing patterns.
Finding the right approach is treated as a collaborative process. The therapist and client review goals, try techniques, and adjust the plan based on what helps most. This shared decision-making includes whether CBT, Gottman tools, or a mix of methods fits better.
Confirm current session formats before booking since they are not listed here. Online work can make it easier to fit sessions into a busy week, allow for shorter check-ins when needed, and reduce travel time. Many people find remote sessions helpful for practicing communication skills between meetings and for keeping momentum on skills learned in session.
Areas of expertise
Primary focus
Additional focus areas
Therapeutic approaches
Experience
19+ years
Listed in
California
Languages
English, Spanish
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of concerns does she address related to guilt or shame?
She works with guilt and shame alongside relationship problems, family of origin issues, trauma and depression. The focus is on how those feelings affect daily life and relationships.
How does she approach feelings of guilt and shame in sessions?
She uses clear, practical conversation and CBT-informed techniques to identify unhelpful thoughts and patterns. The work combines emotional processing with skills to reduce daily distress.
What is her professional background and experience?
She is a California LMFT with 19 years of professional experience working with stress, anxiety, trauma, relationships, and depression.
Where is she licensed and based?
She holds an LMFT credential in California and practices from that state.
Does she offer sessions in other languages?
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish.
What session formats are available?
Confirm current session options before booking as formats are not specified here.
How are costs handled for sessions?
Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin working with her?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, use the crisis numbers.